Why You Must Learn to Trust Your Gut

The reason I chose to become a doula is because I saw how important the birth experience is for creating confident mothers who advocate for themselves and their babies. It's not about having a "perfect" birth, it's about curating moments that are meaningful to you so that you feel safe and supported and empowered. It's about stepping into motherhood with intention. You won't be a perfect parent because no one is. But you can and should be an intentional parent. Even before you give birth, you are your child's advocate. It's up to you ask the questions, make the calls and trust your gut.

The biggest mistake you can make is to blindly trust your care provider. Your care provider is a person and people are prone to err. Sure, they may be highly educated and experienced, and I hope they are. But even so, you possess a unique and valuable perspective that carries more weight than their medical degree: you know your body and you know your baby. Therefore, with any decision to be made for your child, do not leave it entirely to the care provider. Also consider your own experiences and your maternal instincts. I don't care if you've been a mother for 5 minutes, 5 years, or 50 years, you have a God-given maternal instinct. It may take time and practice to be able to hear that voice clearly, but you already possess a valuable knowledge inside you.

Don't be afraid to get second and third opinions from other care providers, from family or trusted friends, and it's always okay to change your mind. Just never discount your own experience and wisdom. And when you do hear that voice inside, do what is right for you and your family. Don't wonder what people will think of you. Your body, your baby, your family and your life are your own, not theirs. Show your child how to advocate for themselves someday. Let them see you navigate challenges with curiosity, bravery, confidence and inner peace.